Getting divorced creates changes for more than just a married couple. Any children two people have together must face significant changes in their lives. While many divorcing parents give most of their attention to the process of ending a marriage, it is important to provide support to children as well.
Regardless of the reason for the divorce, parents should strive to ease the transition from a single family unit living together to two separate arrangements so that children can continue to thrive.
Start communicating early
Once parents have made the decision to get divorced, they should tell their children. Keeping it a secret or avoid the topic can create distrust and resentment. It is not an easy conversation to have, but it is necessary for all involved.
Listen to children’s feelings
Many kids experience intense emotions surrounding their parents’ divorces, and for good reason. It may be tempting to ask your child to get over it, but that can be damaging. Instead, listen to all concerns your children may have and validate them.
When parents split up, children face new routines that they have to get used to. You can help them settle in to new homes by creating consistency between both parents’ places. Work together as co-parents to build similar daily structures that help your children feel comfortable.
Watching parents going through a divorce will likely be one of the most life-changing experiences of your children’s lives. You can make it a little easier by offering support and remembering that the end of your marriage has a direct impact on their lives, too.